Strange girl at career center: Was I attacked?
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frugality1 ...@aol.com (Frugality1982)
Today was my third visit to a center for computer training. I was bringing in financial aid forms to sign up for cl***es that begin in March to study for the A+ and MCSE certifications. After handing in forms, the financial aid person told me to go back into the waiting room.
I was sitting quietly in the waiting room when a girl who appeared to be about 10 years older than me (I am 21) came in with a young child. She told the waiting room desk person something and sat down right next to me.
One minute of awkward silence p***ed when the girl turned her head a bit towards me and plainly said 'hi'. I replied 'hi'.
Then: Girl: "So, what are you here for?" Me: "Training to become a System Engineer".
Girl (bluntly): "Oh..I guess that's 'OK'.
Me, thinking to myself: "That's a nice thing to say to someone." Her (optimistic change of voice): "Well, I'M here for Medical Billing!".
She immediately turned her head away from me and said nothing. When I walked out after being done with financial aid, the girl half-yelled while I was at door "It was nice meeting you!". I turned my head and responded flatly: "Nice meeting you", got in the elevator and left.
I don't know what I did wrong or why she would respond to me in that manner, but I am glad that I have no cl***es with her.
-Frugality
dudenephx1 ...@aol.com (DudeNEPhx1971)
You didnt do anything wrong. You will meet lot of weird/strange people in your life like that. Dont get into the habit of analyzing every conversation/situation.
kitzneg ...@aol.com (kitznegari thinks it has wings)
i think you're blowing it out of proportion. she was probably just stressed because of her kid.
- k i t z -
i will take you to the oracle, but first i must aporogize.
bite me at: http://quiz.ravenblack.net/blood.pl?biter=kitznegari
kitzneg ...@aol.com (kitznegari thinks it has wings)
yep. definitely.
- k i t z -
i will take you to the oracle, but first i must aporogize.
bite me at: http://quiz.ravenblack.net/blood.pl?biter=kitznegari
"fallout" fallo...@comcast.net
She may well have been socially awkward herself and was searching for some common ground with you. If she initiated the conversation and made the last effort to try to talk with you it sounds to me as though she found you interesting enough to want to talk with you. As for her reaction when you told her about the cl***es you were there for? She probably had no idea what you were talking about. My friends and family reacted the same way when i told them i was working on my MCSE. If you aren't a computer geek MCSE may as well be #$%^. It makes no sense to them.
tom
Wacky D wackydth...@cox.net
Sounds to me like she was trying to lighten the mood by saying something playfully negative, but it came out wrong or awkward. I wouldn't be offended by it or anything...
epigon ...@yahoo.com (Leander)
Yep, I was thinking the same.
newmediapr ...@yahoo.com (KC Carter)
Because medical billing is the ticket to wealth and riches, and systems engineering is for losers! She bought into the hype that her instructors fill her head with.
KC
Lonely God sul...@theTHREADkiller.hgea.org
kitznegari thinks it has wings wrote: Some time ago Kitz, you posted about that time in the restaurant when four girls flirted with a guy. He took it badly apparently and most of the guys here thought it was an insult too (me included). Remember?
Just wondering if you think if Fru's experience was something like that; an attempt to come onto someone that came out wrong or fell flat?
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LG <<---who might be seeing things that don't exist "You never know your strength until you are tested" - David Boreanaz
lm lmandtheb...@mailandnews.com
On Fri, 30 Jan 2004 19:50:54 -1000, Lonely God I did not agree with Kitz about the four girls and the guy but I think that in this situation, it seems that the girl was awkwardly trying to make conversation. She could have been me (except the medical billing part) in dozens of crash-and-burn attempts. I wouldn't say she was attempting to come on to him, but she was probably trying to be friendly and just wasn't very good at it.
lm
"fallout" fallo...@comcast.net
exactly my thought.
steve ...@webtv.net (steve)
You have too much time on your hands.
"Pissed Off" pissed...@theworld.invalid
I agree. The awkward silence was probably just because she couldn't think of anything else to say. I suspect her reason for half-yelling, "Nice to meet you!" may have been because she the OP's leaving with out saying some form of "goodbye" to be rude -- some people very much offended by that. I p***ed a person on a sidewalk once who said, "Hi," and I simply nodded my head and kept walking; they stopped, turned around, and yelled, "***HOLE!"
Lonely God sul...@theTHREADkiller.hgea.org
If we didn't, would we be here?? :P
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Lonely G "Don't *think* you are, *know* you are" - Morpheus
capt.band ...@sbcglobal.net (Bandaid)
I think the moral of the story is that awkwardness - shyness - looks just as off-putting to other shys as it does to the rest of the world.
You'd think that other shys would be sensitive to the difficulties others are having, but we're not. None of us are. Maybe we could change it by thinking about it all the time ("This person might be shy like me") and trying to recognize the signs.
I've seen other posts here, including the four girls post, where it seems the shy telling the story totally misread a situation he was in, often interpreting it as hostile. I'd probably do no better if I was actually in the same situation.
GT f...@last.com
Frugality1982 said...
Sound really traumatic. I hope you're OK. Heaven forbid if she had actually smiled at you.
"Steve Spry" 23...@unavailable.com
Why do you believe it was an attack?
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"The Strange Case of Dr. Carlo Lombardi" a...@at.org
At least with really talkative people you don't have to think of anything to say.
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