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"PHilScar" phils...@wow.com
How many days late should a person wait before being concerned enough to get a pregnancy test? My girlfriend is 8 days late but she's been 5 days late in the past, I'm really scared...should I?
Any information would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
Joanna Kimball djkimb...@mouse-potato.com
The answer is a) one day, and b) you shouldn't be having sex. However, since that cat is definitely out of the bag, go get a test. Now. Today.
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Joanna (really hoping she wasn't just trolled) Meriwether, 4 Honour, 2 replace reply address with "mediaone dot net"
"PHilScar" phils...@wow.com
a) One day? Are you stupid? A period can be late due to stress and besides some women are irregular. I mentioned she was 5 days late in the past and wasn't pregnant so your "one day" answer is stupid.
b) "you shouldn't be having sex." are you some religious freak of some sort?
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Melody wik...@cdc.net
Then why bother asking? If you think she might be pregnant and you want to know if she is for certain then buy a test. If you don't, then shut up & wait.
No, she probably just thinks you're too stupid to multiply (and I wouldn't dare disagree with her).
"PHilScar" phils...@wow.com
Holy smokes, sorry sorry. I didn't word my question properly, I was basically wondering if 8 days late can be attributed to stress and/or irregularities?
Since I worded my question differently then i intended, Joanna's answer seemed illogical to me until I read my original post again. Sorry, I'm an idiot for misinterpretting her reply.
Sorry Joanne ...
phils...@wow.com
"Tracey Brown" Pep...@prodigy.net
I think she meant that a pregnancy test will detect pregnancy as soon as one day after a missed period. I doubt she meant that if your GF period is one day late she should immediately go out and take a pregnancy test.
Also, if you are worried about a pregancy and don't want your girlfriend to be pregnant then you should not be having sex, since that is how pregnancy happens. The only way to be absolutely sure that she doesn't get pregnant is to abstain from sex because EVERY form of birth control DOES have a failure rate. If you are so 'scared' about a pregnancy then you most not be ready to be a parent, and therefore you shoudl NOT be having sex. I agree with Joanna.
Adagio Ada...@I.am.from.canada.com
Why is it when someone suggests sexual responsibility, they are some sort of "religious freak"? I don't believe children (***uming these people are minors - i don't know, they could be two adults for all I know) should be engaging in sexual behavior. I sure as heck wish I had waited until my right one came along... As a teen I had stars in my eyes, believing that every boy who wanted sex with me must be "in love" with me. Little did I know that it was virtually masturbation for them, a way to get their rocks off because they knew they had an easy target, someone who wanted to "be loved".
I wanted to feel so grown up in a life where I had spent most of it being belittled, and since sex was a 'grown up' thing, I wanted it too. I am thankful I didn't end up pregnant as a teen. Now mileage varies on this, but simply knowing the way a great percentage of the teenage boy population thinks (and taking it seriously) should ward anyone off having sex at that age. Guys should be educated not to take advantage of girls that way. Yes we don't live in a perfect world, but these are my own standards based not on my "religious preferences" but on my own experiences and being a bit less naive.
Abstinence is an option too.
Adagio
Joanna Kimball djkimb...@mouse-potato.com
No, I'm not stupid, and I obviously know a lot more about pregnancy than you do. A woman has the right to be concerned and to find out if she is pregnant as soon as she is late. Eight days is plenty long for your poor girlfriend to agonize over whether or not she is expecting a baby.
If you cannot handle having a baby, you should not be having sex. Birth control is not fool-proof, and doing what nature designed to make babies does indeed make babies. Your tone of panic and now anger indicates to me that you are FAR from ready to have a baby. Ergo, no sex would be a much wiser course than just hoping that this is an irregularity. Show some respect for your girlfriend, who is going to be the one going through a hard decision and a hard nine months if she's pregnant.
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Joanna Meriwether, 4 Honour, 2 replace reply address with "mediaone dot net"
Joanna Kimball djkimb...@mouse-potato.com
Aw, gee, I'm blushing.
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Joanna Meriwether, 4 Honour, 2 replace reply address with "mediaone dot net"
Tania McMartin mail4...@island.net
I've gone 64 days due to stress (moving, planning a wedding & death of a close friend) so anything is possible. Everyone is different, and only a pregnancy test (or time) will answer your question.
Tania
saraj ...@aol.comnospam (Sarajoyo)
That was well said, Adagio; thanks for sharing that!
-Sara:) (who also agrees that teenagers, and even college students, certainly should not be having sex)
"PHilScar" phils...@wow.com
Thanks for your reply. Please read my previous post where I appologized to you for a misunderstanding on my part, i believe I even call myself an idiot.
"Show some respect for your girlfriend, who is going to be the one going through a hard decision and a hard nine months if she's pregnant." Thanks for information but it's too late, i've been showering her with love and concern and most importantly respect. She's in the middle of exams (becoming a Registered Nurse) so she hasn't been able to find time to make an apointment, but we are able to go tomorrow. She's already made a descision about the future, we're not have a family for awhile and I totally agree with her.
-PHiL ...
"Ruthie" journey1...@home.com
I'm a college student and if I refrained from sex my husband would not be very happy LOL :o)~
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Ruthie, feeling frisky today ...
Adagio Ada...@I.am.from.canada.com
hehehe I am glad I wasn't drinking anything when I read this, it would have spattered the monitor.
LOL Adagio
saraj ...@aol.comnospam (Sarajoyo)
Of course I didn't mean you Ruthie! I know plenty of married college students, and they surely should be having sex, lol! I also know a lot of unmarried college students and young people who have sex a lot, and who aren't prepared to deal with the consequences.
-Sara:)
"Ruthie" journey1...@home.com
LOL ...
"Ruthie" journey1...@home.com
:o)) ...
"Slinky Malinki" lara.cr...@big.guns
If that were the case Sara I wouldn't have my wonderful Rhys, who was very planned and wanted as a teenager, and has been the light of our lives for over 13 years.
Jessica wouldn't have her Julie who was planned also as a teenager.
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Andrea Mum to......
Rhys (13) Jayden (11) Tessa (9) Tyler (8) Paige (6) Grace (5) Zachary (3) Rose and Amelia (18 mths) Angel baby 01/01 and building a mystery, due 11/01 "Babies are such a nice way to start people"
Joanna Kimball djkimb...@mouse-potato.com
But you were married, right? Sara doesn't mean that married couples shouldn't be having sex and kids, but that couples who have no intention of staying together long enough to raise a child and who are in fact panicked at the very thought are incredibly foolish to be tempting fate like that.
There are very practical and wise reasons to not have sex until after you are married- not being left behind with an unwanted baby is one of them.
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Joanna, virgin on her wedding night (and what a night it was :-) Meriwether, 4 Honour, 2 replace reply address with "mediaone dot net"
"Slinky Malinki" lara.cr...@big.guns
No, we didn't marry until I was 4 months pregnant, but we were engaged when we decided to have a baby. Mind you even after my 3rd child at 22 I still had to pretend Rhys was an accidental pregnancy because people were very critical of tenagers planning a child on purpose, the few people we did tell were very mean to us so we learnt to shut up pretty fast.
Sara doesn't mean that married couples I kow she does, but even teenagers who plan to get married or who are married still cop a lot of predjudce and critisicm for there decisions.
:-) Ouch :o) I certainly couldn't of gone all night on my first time, once was enough...lol
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Andrea Mum to......
Rhys (13) Jayden (11) Tessa (9) Tyler (8) Paige (6) Grace (5) Zachary (3) Rose and Amelia (18 mths) Angel baby 01/01 and building a mystery, due 11/01 "Babies are such a nice way to start people"
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Andrea Mum to......
Rhys (13) Jayden (11) Tessa (9) Tyler (8) Paige (6) Grace (5) Zachary (3) Rose and Amelia (18 mths) Angel baby 01/01 and building a mystery, due 11/01 "Babies are such a nice way to start people"
Adagio Ada...@I.am.from.canada.com
How true, I know some people who got married as teens and they get it all the time about how "immature" they are, and not ready for it. They happened to be quite mature for their age, but they were, admittedly, in the minority who could handle the responsibilities of marriage and parenthood.
Adagio
saraj ...@aol.comnospam (Sarajoyo)
Please. You know what I meant. I have nothing against you and Jess having your babies. You were both prepared for it and knew what you were doing. I know too many teens and young people who have sex way too casually who aren't prepared for the possibilities of what a pregnancy will do to their lives.
-Sara:)
saraj ...@aol.comnospam (Sarajoyo)
Thank you Joanna. Yes, that's what I meant; I guess I should have been more specific.
Likewise. And still wondering what I missed out on in high school/college - no worries about diseases, whether or not guy would stick around, unplanned pregnancy - gee, seems like I missed a lot, eh? Can't say as I personally would trade all that "fun" for my dear husband and all the security and fun I have with him. :)
saraj ...@aol.comnospam (Sarajoyo)
That's terrible that people were so mean to you. And to have to pretend he was unplanned - ouch! I think there's a big difference between your situation and ones in which 13 yo plan pregnancies because they just love babies, without considering the future, and/or where high schoolers have unplanned pregnancies with a partner to whom they're not committed, just because they weren't being responsible. You sound like you had it much more together. (And yes, I know that even unplanned pregnancies can turn out to be blessings, and even young single moms can be good parents - I just don't think it's an ideal, and I think kids should think twice, or even 6 times, about the consequences of sex.) And that's just sad. Sure, they may have a few more obstacles ahead of them, like not being as far along in their educations/careers, but those are mostly negligible anyway. If two people are ready to get married, age shouldn't matter.
-Sara:)
"D. Cook" austin_tr...@yahoo.com
How old were you two when you got married?
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